When someone is a leader, you usually notice it. This person seems different than everyone else in a positive way! There is a boy in my church seems to be a natural leader and everyone in our youth group talks about how he seems to have a gift of leadership. Good leaders are needed desperately in this time and age. If everyone follows each other, they will end up going in a way that they do not want to go. In one of the sessions I went to this weekend, they talked about being a leader and stepping away from the crowd. In a crowd, there is one person that everyone follows around. This method of wanting to follow the leader is called crowd mentality and it is not always positive thing. So I encourage you to take a good look of yourself and ask am I a leader or a follower? So who are you following?
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This is Thea. She is 12 years old, and will this week be married to Geir, who is 37. She is to be Norway’s official first child bride, according to her wedding blog which has received over half a million readers, according to The Independent. On her blog, Theas Bryllup ('Thea's Wedding' in Norwegian), the pre-teen writes that her mother has told her she must marry Geir on 11 October. Thea has been documenting the countdown to her wedding and posts selfies of herself, snaps of her testing out wedding cakes. She learns that she will stop going to school once she is a wife, and will be expected to soon have children with her future husband. Hundreds of concerned readers commented on the blog, and asked Thea if she was really going to marry the 37-year-old. Many contacted the police in Norway, and the hashtag #stoppbryllupet (stop the wedding) trended on Twitter as people voiced their alarm. One of Thea's blog posts contains the realisation that she may soon have to give birth to children, after her mother tells her off writing: "She was pissed and said I had to stop and act like one child now that I will soon have my own family and take care of." "What she meant by that exactly? Thinks she want me to get my own children soon? I know that it is normal when you get married to especially if you have sex and stuff.” In another post, a smiling Thea celebrates when she finds out she won't have to go to school once she is married to Geir 25 years her senior. “Today I just tell you right away today then something happened insane!" Thea writes. "My mom said that I should marry Geir I will not go to school longer! For Geir's supposed to fit in and give me what I need and so I need not really have to work so much.” Happily, Thea is not really a child bride. The blog is actually a clever stunt from children’s development charity Plan International, aiming to raise awareness of the fact that 39,000 children around the world are forced into marriage every day. If the practice continues, 142 million girls marry before they are 18 over the next decade, according to the charity. And Thea's blog includes blog posts by girls who really were married off at a young age, including 11-year-old Ranya from Bangladesh, and 15-year-old Latifa from Tanzania. The campaign has started a national petition in Norway against child marriage, to "stop" Thea's wedding before it takes place on 11 October, the UN's International Day of the Girl Child. Supporters can also sponsor a girl at risk of becoming a child bride. Have you had a rough past where you did some things wrong that you feel you cannot erase? Are you having issues in your family trying to live up to expectations? Or do you feel hopeless? This song struck me because it is the first time I have heard it so but it is so true.. Sometimes we live in the past. But if we dwell on our family tree and on our family's mistakes we can never move forward. Please.... listen to this song and see if it touches you like it touched me. Other great songs by the same person ( Matthew West) I could go on forever but I have lots of homework...
Bye! Divorce is tough.I have seen and readbooks about people whose parents have divorced. I have not expirienced divorce first hand but I found this article on Kidshealth.org and I hope it will help. The link to the website is below. For many people, their parents' divorce marks a turning point in their lives, whether the divorce happened many years ago or is taking place right now.
About half the marriages in the United States today end in divorce, so plenty of kids and teens have to go through this. But when it happens to you, you can feel very alone and unsure of what it all means. It may seem hard, but it is possible to cope with divorce — and have a good family life in spite of some changes divorce may bring. Why Are My Parents Divorcing?Parents divorce for many reasons. Usually divorce happens when couples feel they can no longer live together due to fighting and anger, or because the love they had when they married has changed. Divorce can also be because one parent falls in love with someone else, and sometimes it is due to a serious problem like drinking, abuse, or gambling. Sometimes nothing bad happens, but parents just decide to live apart. Did you know it’s really common for teens to think that their parents' divorce is somehow their fault? Just try to remember that parents' decisions to split up are to do with issues between them, and not because of something you might have done or not done. Some kids feel guilty about what happened, or wish they had prevented arguments by cooperating more within the family, doing better with their behavior, or getting better grades. But separation and divorce are a result of a couple's problems with each other, not with their kids. The decisions adults make about divorce are their own. If your parents are divorcing, you may experience many feelings. Your emotions may change frequently, too. You may feel stressed out, angry, frustrated, or sad. You might feel protective of one parent or blame one for the situation. You may feel abandoned, afraid, worried, or guilty. You may also feel relieved, especially if there has been a lot of tension or fighting at home. These feelings are very typical and talking about them with a friend, family member, or trusted adult can really help. How Will Divorce Change My Life?Depending on what happens in your family, you might have to adjust to many changes. These could include things like moving, changing schools, spending time with both parents separately, and perhaps dealing with parents' unpleasant feelings about one another. Your parents may go to court to determine custody arrangements. You could end up living with one parent most of the time and visiting the other, or your parents may split their time with you evenly. At the beginning, it means you might have to be flexible and might have more hassles to deal with for a while. Some teens have to travel between parents, and that can create challenges both socially and practically. Over time you can figure out a new routine that works for all of you. Often, it takes a while for custody arrangements to be finalized. This can give people time to adapt to these big changes and let families figure out what works best. Money matters may change for your parents, too. A parent who didn't work during the marriage may need to find a job to pay for rent or a mortgage. This might be something a parent is excited about, but he or she may also feel nervous or pressured about finances. There are also expenses associated with divorce, from lawyers' fees to the cost of moving to a new place to live. Your family may not be able to afford all the things you were used to before the divorce. This is one of the difficult changes often associated with divorce. There can be good changes too — but how you cope with the stressful changes depends on your situation, your personality, and your support network. What Parents and Teens Can Do to Make It EasierKeep the peace. Dealing with divorce is easiest when parents get along. Teens find it especially hard when their parents fight and argue or act with bitterness toward each other. You can't do much to influence how your parents behave during a divorce, but you can ask them to do their best to call a truce to any bickering or unkind things they might be saying about each other. No matter what problems a couple may face, as parents they need to handle visiting arrangements peacefully to minimize the stress their kids may feel. Letting your parents know that even though you know everyone is super-stressed, you don’t want to get caught in the middle. Be fair. Most teens say it's important that parents don't try to get them to "take sides." You need to feel free to hang out with and talk to each of your parents without the other parent acting jealous, hurt, or mad. It's unfair for anyone to feel that talking to one parent is being disloyal to the other or that the burden of one parent's happiness is on your shoulders. When parents find it hard to let go of bitterness or anger, or if they are depressed about the changes brought on by divorce, they can find help from a counselor or therapist. This can help parents get past the pain divorce may have created, to find personal happiness, and to lift any burdens from their kids. Kids and teens can also benefit from seeing a family therapist or someone who specializes in helping them get through the stress of a family breakup. It might feel weird at first to talk to someone you don't know about personal feelings, but it can be really helpful to hear about how other teens in your situation have coped. Keep in touch. Going back and forth between two homes can be tough, especially if parents live far apart. It can be a good idea to keep in touch with a parent you see less often because of distance. Even a quick email saying "I'm thinking of you" helps ease the feelings of missing each other. Making an effort to stay in touch when you're apart can keep both of you up to date on everyday activities and ideas. Work it out. You may want both parents to come to special events, like games, meets, plays, or recitals. But sometimes a parent may find it awkward to attend if the other is present. It helps if parents can figure out a way to make this work, especially because you may need to feel the support and presence of both parents even more during divorce. You might be able to come up with an idea for a compromise or solution to this problem and suggest it to both parents. Talk about the future. Many teens whose parents divorce worry that their own plans for the future could be affected. Some are concerned that the costs of divorce (like legal fees and expenses of two households) might mean there will be less money for college or other things. Pick a good time to tell your parents about your concerns — when there's enough time to sit down with one or both parents to discuss how the divorce will affect you. Don't worry about putting added stress on your parents, just try to pick a good time to talk when everyone is feeling calm. It's better to bring your concerns into the open than to keep them to yourself and let worries or resentment build. There are solutions for most problems and advisors and counselors who can help teens and their parents find those solutions. Figure out your strengths. How do you deal with stress? Do you get angry and take it out on siblings, friends, or yourself? Or are you someone who is a more of a pleaser who puts others first? Do you tend to avoid conflict altogether and just hope that problems will magically disappear? A life-changing event like a divorce can put people through some tough times, but it can also help them learn about their strengths, and put in place some new coping skills. For example, how can you cope if one parent bad-mouths another? Sometimes staying quiet until the anger has subsided and then discussing it calmly with your mom or dad can help. You may want to tell them you have a right to love both your parents, no matter what they are doing to each other. If you need help figuring out your strengths or how to cope — like from a favorite aunt or from your school counselor — ask for it! And if you find it hard to confront your parents, try writing them a letter. Figure out what works for you. Live your life. Sometimes during a divorce, parents may be so caught up in their own changes it can feel like your own life is on hold. In addition to staying focused on your own plans and dreams, make sure you participate in as many of your normal activities as possible. When things are changing at home, it can really help to keep some things, such as school activities and friends, the same. If things get too hard at home, see if you can stay with a friend or relative until things calm down. Take care of yourself by eating right and getting regular exercise — two great stress busters! Figure out what's important to you — spending time with friends, working hard at school, writing or drawing, or being great at basketball. Finding your inner strength and focusing on your own goals can really help your stress levels. Let others support you. Talk about your feelings and reactions to the divorce with someone you trust. If you're feeling down or upset, let your friends and family members support you. These feelings usually pass. If they don't, and if you're feeling depressed or stressed out, or if it's hard to concentrate on your normal activities, let a counselor or therapist help you. Your parents, school counselor, or a doctor or other health professional can help you find one. Many communities and schools have support groups for kids and teens whose parents have divorced. It can really help to talk with other people your age who are going through similar experiences. For the restof the article go to http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/Parents/divorce.html# Hi guys,
Its Saturday and I want to talk about a very important thing that happens after someone dies and its called the funeral. I made it through my first funeral yesterday and will explain some of the details later on excite2write.weebly.com. Basically, you go to a church and get to see the body (you may not if it is closed casket) and then you sit through a ceremony where people share stories of the loved one that past. Now, at first you may be angry like I was and you may not want to go to the funeral, I know I didn't I was brooding because I knew that once the funerals was over everything would be final. I found out later that laughing and crying through the funeral was a sense of closure. Closure is when you finally recognize that the person who past is gone on to a better place. So if you are mourning for a loved one go to the funeral. It will give you a sense of closure and help you to get through mourning. And here is a word of wisdom I know that if someone passes away its a hard especially if you knew the person personally.. The key is not to give up. On days that you feel like you can't make it think of good memories of the person. After a while, you will get through mourning. Also, make sure you cling to family and friends because it will ward off the emptiness felt after the funeral. I have to go and Good luck -G A few weeks ago, I was weeding out my garden and it got me to thinking about how hard weeds are to pull out because of how deeply rooted they are. When you are deeply rooted in something you don't give up on it easily. Whether it is gardening or writing or even playing video games being rooted can help you in life. Have you ever heard the term where you passion is your heart is? Where you spend your time is where your passion is. SO make sure that whether you are deeply rooted in faith or something else, that you invest time in it so that you can be deeply rooted. That way, when temptations and the storms of life come you won't loose yourself.
See you later Love, Gabrielle. I have to admit that at first when my grandfather passed away I felt like my world was falling apart. I never knew that when he passed away it would teach me lessons I could never forget.
- Take things one thing at a time- you only have one life and stressing over the small things will make you stress out. If you take one thing at a time and let your emotions come when they may, you will feel better. - Treasure family- Family is the one thing that can make you feel better about death when noone else can. Treasuring every moment with them will not only make you feel better, but will make you feel supported at a time of need. - Accept emotions- I am still working on this one. Trying to accept when you feel like crying is something you have to deal with after someone passes away. - Find a hobby or passion- I notice that keeping myself busy with my hobbies has kept my mind away from the tough stuff. I love to play my instrument and draw so I spend my time on these things. Ever since my grandfather died on Friday I have been sad but ok. But the worst part about going through the pain is that noone fully understands how you feel. The worst thing that you could say to try and make me feel "Better" is think positive. I have heard it twice so far at times that I didn't feel like thinking positive would help. It may help over small issues but what happens when you are so sad that you can't think positive? Or when all you want to do is cry? Is Thinking positive supposed to wash away all the pain you feel? Will Thinking positive hide the fact that you don't want to feel sad anymore over your grandpa? Will thinking positive be there when all you can do is feel sad and yucky? The answer is no. Telling a sad person to think positive is like saying abandon all of your feelings. It doesn't work and makes the person feel worse. So if you ever have a friend who is sad over death or any other dramatic issue the best thing to say if you can't say anything at all is "Im sorry for your loss."
GTG -G Yesterday I found out that my grandfather past away. In honor of this I am going to post this article I found on how to make yourself feel better after a family member passes away. Courtesy of Grief words.com
Helping Yourself Heal When Someone Diesby Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Someone You Love Has Died You are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who has died. It is an essential part of healing. You are beginning a journey that is often frightening, painful, overwhelming, and sometimes lonely. This article provides practical suggestions to help you move toward healing in your personal grief experience. Realize Your Grief is Unique. No one will grieve in exactly the same way. Your experience will be influenced by a variety of factors: the relationship you had with the person who died; the circumstances surrounding the death; your emotional support system; and your cultural and religious background. As a result of these factors, you will grieve in your own special way. Don't try to compare your experience with that of other people or to adopt assumptions about just how long your grief should last. Consider taking a "one-day-at-a-time" approach that allows you to grieve at your own pace. Talk About Your Grief Express your grief openly- By sharing your grief outside yourself, healing occurs. Ignoring your grief won't make it go away; talking about it often makes you feel better. Allow yourself to speak from your heart, not just your head. Doing so doesn't mean you are losing control, or going "crazy." It is a normal part of your grief journey. Find caring friends and relatives who will listen without judging. Seek out those persons who will walk with, not in front of, or behind you in your journey through grief. Avoid persons who are critical or who try to steal your grief from you. They may tell you, "keep your chin up," or "carry on," or "be happy." While these comments may be well-intended, you do not have to accept them. You have a right to express your grief; no one has the right to take it away. Expect to Feel a Multitude of Emotions- Experiencing loss affects your head, heart, and spirit. So you may experience a variety of emotions as part of your grief work. Confusion, disorganization, fear, guilt, relief, or explosive emotions are just a few of the emotions you may feel. Sometimes these emotions will follow each other within a short period of time. Or they may occur simultaneously. As strange as some of these emotions may seem they are normal and healthy. Allow yourself to learn from these feelings. And don't be surprised if out of nowhere you suddenly experience surges of grief, even at the most unexpected times. These grief attacks can be frightening and leave you feeling overwhelmed. They are, however, a natural response to the death of someone loved. Find someone who understands your feelings and will allow you to talk about them. Allow for Numbness- Feeling dazed or numb when someone dies is often part of your early grief experience. This numbness serves a valuable purpose: it gives your emotions time to catch up with what your mind has told you. This feeling helps create insulation from the reality of the death until you are more able to tolerate what you don't want to believe. Be Tolerant of Your Physical and Emotional Limits- Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you fatigued. Your ability to think clearly and make decisions may be impaired. And your low-energy level may naturally slow you down. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. Nurture yourself. Get daily rest. Eat balanced meals. Lighten your schedule as much as possible. Caring for yourself doesn't mean feeling sorry for yourself it means you are using survival skills. Develop a Support System- Reaching out to others and accepting support is often difficult, particularly when you hurt so much. But the most compassionate self-action you can do at this difficult time is to find a support system of caring friends and relatives who will provide the understanding you need. Find those people who encourage you to be yourself and acknowledge your feelings -- both happy and sad. Make Use of Ritual- The funeral ritual does more than acknowledge the death of someone loved. It helps provide you with the support of caring people. Most importantly, the funeral is a way for you to express your grief outside yourself. If you eliminate this ritual, you often set yourself up to repress your feelings, and you cheat everyone who cares of a chance to pay tribute to someone who was, and always will be, loved. Embrace Your Spirituality- If faith is part of your life, express it in ways that seem appropriate to you. Allow yourself to be around people who understand and support your religious beliefs. If you are angry at God because of the death of someone you loved, realize this feeling as a normal part of your grief work. Find someone to talk with who won't be critical of your feelings of hurt and abandonment. Allow a Search for Meaning- You may find yourself asking, "Why did he die? Why this say? Why now?" This search for meaning is often another normal part of the healing process. Some questions have answers. Some do not. Actually, the healing occurs in the opportunity to pose the questions, not necessarily in answering them. Find a supportive friend who will listen responsively as you search for meaning. Treasure Your Memories- Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after someone loved dies. Treasure them. Share them with your family and friends. Recognize that your memories may make you laugh or cry. In either case, they are a lasting part of the relationship that you had with a very special person in your life. Move Toward Your Grief and Heal- The capacity to love requires the necessity to grieve when someone loved dies. You cannot heal unless you openly express your grief. Denying your grief will only make it become more confusing and overwhelming. Embrace your grief and heal. Reconciling your grief will not happen quickly. Remember, grief is a process, not an event. be patient and tolerant with yourself. Never forget that the death of someone loved changes your life forever. It's not that you won't be happy again. It's simply that you will never be exactly the same as you were before the death. The experience of grief is powerful. So, too, is your ability to help yourself heal. In doing the work of grieving, you are moving toward a renewed sense of meaning and purpose in your life. Related Resources
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https://www.facebook.com/Gskookycrafts GOOD LUCK!!! When you look in the mirror what do you see? Are the things you think about yourself positive or negative? A lot of problems us teens struggle with have to do with the way we view ourselves. One time I fell into the trap of trying to be this perfect teen, this did not end well. I ended up almost exploding from it and almost loosing myself. If you have been stuck in this same self image trap here are some small things you can do to help. Don’t compare apples to oranges- just like apples and oranges are two different fruit types there are many different types of people. Everyone has a different talent and it is easy to look at someone and say “I want a flat stomach just like her.” You may compare yourself to others all the time and may think it is not harming anyone. But by comparing yourself to others you cutting away your self esteem and this damage can be hard to undo. Be positive not negative- I hate my hair, I hate my ears, I hate myself. Have you ever heard a friend say any of these things about themselves out loud? OR have you said them yourself? When you hear people say these things like this about themselves you notice. SO why do still say these words if we know it is bringing negative attention to us? Instead of saying I hate my hair, find something positive to say about your hair or don’t say anything at all. All of your parts were made with great care and appreciating them will do you wonders. Live in the present not the past- Living in the present means that instead of looking back on all of the things you did wrong focus on what you do right. For example, instead of focusing on that test you failed think about what you can do better on the next one and move on. Living in the past can cause depression and unhappiness and overall low self esteem. Set realistic excpectations- This means if you set a goal to make a certain weight, then give yourself time to complete the goal. Don’t expect yourself to be perfect instead try and be yourself. Having low self-esteem is like trying to break down a strong bridge. It will take time and at times you may go backwards, but ultimately the feeling you get makes the pain worth it. -G Studies show that people who drink coffee are 10% less at risk for depression. Coffee's energy boost partly has to do with its high antioxidants. After all, not all drinks that have caffeine in them are good for you. This is escpecially true with some Coke products which can actually cause depression. Coffee can also protect our body from Type 2 diabetes as well as Alzheimers desies. BUT just because you think you need a huge energy boost don't drink a million cups of coffee which can cause a massive sugar rush. Usually 2 or 3 cups are about all you need to get your energy going. -G * All of this information comes from Prevention Magazine April 2013 edition page 11. I was searching around online and I think I have found an advice goldmine!!!!!!!!! It is called to http://www.2knowmyself.com/how_to_get_over_someone_you_cant_have. And well you check it out.
Earlier posted a post about how to deal with heartbreak and now here is an amazing article from 2knowmyself.com on how to get over someone you cannot have. Without further ado, the article... How to get over someone you can't have ( courtesy of 2knowmyself.com) By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc I was giving a lecture about love's psychology in one of the education centers in Egypt and when i started talking about getting over someone you can't have one of the attendants raised her hand and asked for the permission to talk. The lady kept saying in a very romantic tone, "No this is not love, this can't be, the mind is not responsible for love, this is not love, this is not love" The tone was really soft to the extent that i felt that the lady will hug the chair in front of her while talking! Sadly this lady was like millions of other people who have been completely brain washed by the media to the extent that they become completely shocked when they hear someone talking about scientific facts that explains love. The lady was in a state of shock and denial, one part of her wanted to believe what she was hearing and the other part was afraid to do so. If she believed the words she will recover from the breakup but in the same time she will admit that all of her beliefs about love were false!! In this article i will give you more tips that can help you get over someone you can't have in a short period of time. Love is beautiful, i saw it on TV !!So back to the lady who was shocked, The main reason she felt so bad is that she heard me saying that falling in love is a process that is controlled by the mind and that our brains are like giant computers that look for matches based on our past experiences, belief systems, relationship with parents, unmet needs and the way we were raised. (see Love hatred and the mind). So i asked the lady to describe love according to her perspective, she stood and only kept repeating the same statement using the same romantic tone "Love is beautiful, Love is beautiful, love is beautiful" Sadly the lady was describing exactly what she saw on the Television, what happened in the movie titanic before the ship sank and what she has been hearing since years in romantic songs. (see How romantic music hinders recovery from breakups and Songs to get over someone). After talking with the lady for few minutes i realized that her beliefs about love mainly were formed and influenced by the media instead of real life experience. You might be wondering what does this has to do with getting over someone you can't have, but when you know that the main reason people don't recover after breakups is because of their false beliefs about love you will stop wondering!! Getting over someone you can't have is all about fixing your beliefsBecause you have been brainwashed to believe that love is the solution to all problems you will face a horrible time getting over anyone you can't have. If you really want to get over a person quickly then you should turn off the TV, forget about Titanic and listen to what science has to say about love:
2knowmysef is not a complicated medical website nor it's a boring online encyclopedia but it's a place where you will find simple, to the point and effective information that is backed by psychology and that is presented in a simple and obvious way Heartbreak seems like the number 1 social problem among teens. If you have had your heart broken before, and I know I have, you know that it really sucks. Basically, it feels like a heavy weight is on your heart all the time. SO how do you get yourself out of this funk? Here are some tips and some things I totally struggled with doing but that may help you.
Don't pretend everything is Ok- If there is one thing I struggle with it is this. I feel like it would be easier to pretend everything is ok than to actually do anything. But if you keep pretending you are ok without finding an outlet, you will end up exploding. Just ask my friend who had a coughing attack when she found her crush didn't like her. Find an outlet- Punch a punching bag, write in a journal, blog, or even dance in the rain. An outlet is something that expresses your feeling. My outlet was my journal and my blogs they helped me not to feel like I was going to explode. Think before you do- When your heart is broken it is easy to take it out one everyone around you but the truth is that this will make you feel guilty and won't solve anything. Tell a friend or family member- never underestimate the power of a friend . They can give you valuable advice and telling them will take a weight off your sholulders. Good luck -G Guy friends are the best. You can talk to them about anything and they totally get you. But what happens if you develop a crush on this friend? I have a guy friend who is in the same situation. He has a girl that he has known since 5th grade and now he has a crush on her. I gave him this advice. Number 1, be a great friend. This should not be hard if you are already friends with the person. Number 2, find ways to hang out, you could go to a school football game or hang out after school dances are a great opportunity! If there is a dance coming up ask the crush if they would like to go as friends or if you are really bold ask them to be your date. The best thing to do is take things slow. Often times, if you go too fast in the relationship the boy or girl may get freaked out.
Good luck and I hope all goes well. Sincerely, Gabrielle. AND MOST TEENS DONT KNOW THE DIFFERENCE. The truth is, that a lot of times these two can get confused. You may have a friend who is going out with a boy and you see that the boy is not treating her right. Or you may have a friend that is already engaged to a guy who has a baby mama already and you see trouble brewing in the future. Or maybe your friend has an eating disorder. In all of these cases you have 2 choices. You can either tell your friend what you are thinking or you can let them go through with it. The bad part about number 2 is that your friend may end up in a situation that could have been avoided if you had told her the truth. But how do you break it to the friend without crushing them? This is especially hard if your friend is super excited about her engagement to her new boyfriend: C. Or worse, if your friend has an eating disorder and they tell you to swear you will not say a word.
I am in a similar situation. I know a girl from my school and she is my current friend. She just got engaged to a guy who already has a baby by another mother. The baby mom is still alive but the boy is separated from her. He is currently 3 years older than my friend. She is really really happy about it but I have a feeling it may cause her some problems. I want to talk to her about it but I don’t know how to save her from heartbreak. But I always heard that the truth prevails. SO what would you do in these situations? -G Boys. They are the opposite sex from us and have completely different emotions. So why do they feel like another species soemtimes? I feel like when we were in 5th grade and they gave us the whole bird and bee talk, they barely prepared us for what was coming when it comes to guys. SO why do boys act the way they act? Why are they so finicky? Why do they act a certain way to get your attention? Why do you feel invisible in front of that special guy? Why does the guy you like seem to be too busy to talk to you? Why do boys act like total jerks sometimes? I wish I had the answer to all of these questions, but the truth is I don't know the answer to any of them. Except that boys are wonderful. So what do you do when the boy you like seems to have a whole group of friends surrounding them like paparazzi 24/7? I am really writing this because I have asked myself all these questions before. PLEASE if you have any advice, I would love you to contact me. For now I guess boys will stay on planet 8.
This has been on my mind all day long and poking me in the back. Today in band my friend seemed noticeably upset and mad about something. But she wouldn't tell me what was wrong. Then, when I asked her she shook her head and started bawling. I had no idea what to do I just sat there and rubbed her back. Pause. Have you ever been in an akward situation where someone you know starts crying but you don't know how to comfort them? I mean, if you try and say the wrong thing they may get angrier than ever, but it hurts to see them sitting there bawling their eyes out. Also, if you are unsure about how serious their issue is, its even more confusing. Then again, if you don't say anything that is being inconsiderate. So what do you do???? Today at lunch another girl I knew was crying and her friends just gave her a hug. I guess that is all you can do right? I ended up giving my crying friend a piece of gum. What else is there to do?
Today I had a guy come up to me and say " Hey you are cute" and not only that, he then started to follow me and ask me for my number. I was super embarrassed because I didn't know the guy at all. So I just kept walking and didn't give him any information. Sometimes, guys do this to try and call attention to themselves. I am sure that this guy really wasn't flirting with me, but needed attention and decided to take an awkward avenue. If this ever happens to you, can do either one of two things
Ignore the person or walk away and tell someone. Now, if they touch you that is a different story and that is the point where you need to scream at the top of your lungs and use self defense. Thankfully, I didn't have to resort or react, I just walked away. I hate labels. Have you ever had someone call you a name and then it got stuck with you and suddenly noone seems to know you anymore? Ever since middle school I have been labeled smart girl. It wasn't apparent though until high school when it got blatent. Soon, all the kids in my biology class only talked to me if they wanted answers. I felt so alone until I found a group of people who were smart and cool and suddenly the labels didn't matter so much anymore.
People who are different get labeled the most. A lot of times people will say "Oh her, she's so wratched" Or " I heard she is bi" and these labels soon seem to be the only thing that matter anymore. Suddenly, all the magnet kids hang together and the jocks totally avoid them. Labels create this artificial wall around groups and suddenly the magnet kids hang out in one place and the geeks in the other. That is why it is so rare to find someone who hangs out with everyone. Those are the people I love to hang out with. SO why don't we try and pull off the labels and try to get to know people? -G. We all cry sometimes. It is a natural outlet for feelings when we are struggling. So, why does it seem that crying is embarrassing? That was a question I ask myself. I don't like to cry in public. Maybe it is because people seem to stare. Or, when we cry it shows all the emotions we feel and then we feel vulnerable. The other day, I was in Fred's superstore and that song Big girls don't cry came on and it made me wonder what that song was teaching girls. First off, if we never cried we would probably explode. Second no song should be teaching girls such a twisted message because big girls do cry. They cry when they are in pain, or when thier heart is broken, or when they just feel bad. So I just want to let you know that sometimes it is Ok to cry.
Actually did you know you can cry tears of joy too? It is a natural emotion. Sometimes I laugh so hard I cry. Some people say that crying is a waste of energy, but I promise when you do cry, then you do something about it things seem better again. One of my favorite quotes is The strongest person isn't the one who doesn't cry, its the one who cries then gets back up and fights again. gabriellecbioreview.weebly.com If you are in school you have probably dealt with some gossip. Surprisingly, girls are not the only ones who gossip. I once had a guy say I had a crush on him when I didn't and told all of his friends. I was so embarrassed. Gossip is the act of spreading thoughts about someone that may or not be true. Trust me, gossip hurts. If you are a victim of gossip here are some tips.
Talk to the person who is gossiping about you- If you are shy like I can be, write down what you are going to say then practice it in front of your mirror, or in your room until you are comfortable. Make sure that you pull the person aside because if you don't the situation may be misinterpreted. Be calm when talking to the gossiper- When you are mad you often don't think as well as if you were calm. One time my friend tried to talk to a gossiper while she was angry and it came out harsh. So, make sure if you are mad, take in a few deep breaths and then talk to them. Ask someone you trust about what you should do- You can confide in a best friend or a mom or even a dad. Tell them your situation and then ask their opinion. If it is on social media....... Social media is powerful and information can be spread in a matter of seconds. If you are being cyberbullied don't be afraid to print out the hurtful comments, shut down your account, then either talk to the person,or go to someone you trust. No one deserves to be gossiped about whether you are biracial, or black or white. STAND UP AGAINST GOSSIP. Be courageous! ‘
Having courage means that you try things that you are scared to do. It may mean asking out that boy you like or talking to a special crush. Or it may be deciding to step away from drugs or from things that harm you. Sometimes it is hard to have courage. Especially when it is easier to say “I will just _______one more time”. But when you have courage amazing things happen. You may talk to your crush and fund out that he is the guy you have been dreaming about for a long time. Or you may find that without this or that you have more peace of mind. Yesterday, I stepped out of my comfort zone and talked to the one boy I have had my eyes on for 3 days and I found out that he is a really nice kid. I never would have known this if I hadn’t had the courage to speak to him. Deuteronomy 31:6 talks about being strong and courageous and not letting those little fears control your destiny. Even if you are a self- harmer having courage would mean trying to get help for that and trying to step away from the things that harm you. Having courage may not always be easy, and just because you have it doesn’t mean things will get better automatically. And sometimes you may slip back into old habits but having the courage to try means that you are a strong person in yourself. Lie vs. Truth Have you ever told a white lie to spare someone else feelings and then you had to continue telling lies to make up for it? How did it feel to know that you were blatantly lying to that person? Lying never helps anything. Oftentimes, it makes things worse and ruins relationships. In sixth grade, before I knew what peer pressure was, I had a "friend" I had met over the summer. She kept asking me to come over to her house in the morning. I told her no at first, but then the idea started to slip into my head. Maybe I would go to her house in the mornings. So I did. It was very stressful to me to know that my parents didn't know where I was during the mornings. And I have to admit that it didn't feel too good. But like the truth often comes out it did and my parents found out. My so called friend, lied to my dad's face. We are not friends anymore but I learned a very important lesson. Lying never pays off. And the truth will always come out someway. So when you have the choice between lying and telling the truth make sure you tell the truth. BYE -G |