Ever since my grandfather died on Friday I have been sad but ok. But the worst part about going through the pain is that noone fully understands how you feel. The worst thing that you could say to try and make me feel "Better" is think positive. I have heard it twice so far at times that I didn't feel like thinking positive would help. It may help over small issues but what happens when you are so sad that you can't think positive? Or when all you want to do is cry? Is Thinking positive supposed to wash away all the pain you feel? Will Thinking positive hide the fact that you don't want to feel sad anymore over your grandpa? Will thinking positive be there when all you can do is feel sad and yucky? The answer is no. Telling a sad person to think positive is like saying abandon all of your feelings. It doesn't work and makes the person feel worse. So if you ever have a friend who is sad over death or any other dramatic issue the best thing to say if you can't say anything at all is "Im sorry for your loss."
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